Are you allowing yourself to be happy? This is a question I started asking myself and quickly realized that I was not allowing myself to be happy at all. Have you ever been in a season or period of your life, where things have not been going particularly well? Hello, adulting? lol I think I was just so used to not being happy that even when things were going well in my life, I didn’t even recognize that it was something that I should be happy about. I only saw the negative. Things were starting to turn around and I was still moping around like the world was falling. I’ve mentioned in a blog post before that I started going to counseling. I really do want to write a whole blog post on it because it has helped me tremendously. Anyway, I’ve been doing it for a couple of months now and this was one of the things we uncovered during one of our sessions. Now, I’m the type of person that once you make me aware of something, I can kind of stop it before I start spiraling (another reason why counseling really works for me). But if you’re not like that I wanted to share some of the things that have helped me, shift my mindset and allow myself to be happy and to celebrate the good things going on in life.
Finding the positive in every day – So this is an exercise that I started doing every morning. As I’m driving to work and talking with my mom on the phone, I talk to her about at least one positive thing that happened the day before. It sounds super juvenile and you’re probably like what is this bologna that you’re saying, but I PROMISE it’s worth giving this a shot. What this does is, even if the day before was a horrible day, you’re still finding one good thing about it. I’ve been doing this for a couple of weeks now and it has drastically helped. A tip is to try and focus it on the area that is bringing you the most negativity. For example, if it’s work, try to find something positive that happened at work.
Take a moment to celebrate – I am the first to admit that I am the worst at this. I think it’s partially because we are a part of a generation that is constantly wanting to do better and be better. While this is a great thing, it’s also about celebrating the little moments and not being too hard on yourself. It’s about finding that balance. SOOO if you present a project at work and you kill it, or if you decided to take the stairs instead of the elevator, you CELEBRATE. Pat yourself on the back, take a moment to acknowledge your victory no matter how big or small it is. Okay, so sometimes I don’t celebrate the right way like I’ll spend unnecessary money on clothes or celebrate working out with a donut lol but at least I’m celebrating.
Even though you may not like the season you’re in, put attention on the things you enjoy. Discover the things that bring you joy and do them! I’m beginning to realize that life is really too short to be focused on the negative. We have to much to do in this world to be held back.