So a couple of weeks ago, I turned 22. You know that one age that no one really acknowledged until Taylor Swift made a song about it? Surprisingly, I did not have Taylor Swift blaring through the apartment, but I must say I am feeling 22. This year is a huge year for me. I graduate from college and end that season of my life. I have to put my degree to work and find a big girl job. This year, adulting happens in full effect. So many changes are about to happen and take place in my life. I honestly don’t know if I’m ready for it, but it doesn’t matter because it’s happening lol.
Through my many life experiences at 22, I have learned some things. You know that saying, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger?” I used to think it was a bunch of bologna, but it honestly is true. Over the past couple of years I have had amazing memories, but also some horrible ones. But in every moment, good and bad, I have learned a lesson. Here are a few things I’ve learned over the years:
Make God your best friend.
Through all the crap that life throws at us, we have a God that is bigger than any problem we could ever have. Things would’ve been sooooo different if I focused on God at a younger age, but I’m glad that I eventually decided to make him the center of my life. Of course I’m human and sometimes I may fail, but talking to God and letting him know what’s going on, as if you were talking to your best friend, that feeling is like no other.
Listen to your mother, she’s always right.
I could literally make a whole blog post about things my mother has taught me. It took me awhile to get this one, but being the stubborn person that I am, I never liked to listen to my mother. This may not be true for everyone, but listen to your mother. She has been around for a long time and is full of wisdom and grace. Take time to hear what she has to say.
Learn how to cook at least one good meal.
If you know me, you know I do not like to cook. But I have realized the importance of cooking since all of my money goes down the drain on food. All those Pinterest recipes that I pin will come in handy one day lol. But for that one day that you get tired of eating McDonald’s and want real food, learn how to cook a meal. It doesn’t have to be master chef approved. Find something at your skill level and master it. For me it’s this pad thai recipe I found on the back of a box of rice noodles.
Being alone doesn’t have to be a bad thing.
I’m not talking about being single, but just being alone. When you’re alone it forces you to get to know yourself. You figure out your likes, your dislikes, your passions. These moments are some of the most trying and rewarding times.
Find your passion and do it often.
Figure out what brings you joy and do it. Simple as that.
Don’t focus on trends, buy the classics.
Of course I had to throw something about fashion in here! Take it from me, a girl whose closet in high school was filled with screen tees and hawaiian shirts, ask me if these pieces are still in my closet? NO THEY ARE NOT. Trends are great, but stock up on the classics that will last you for a while and maybe one hawaiian shirt.
In college, we are doing so many things at once. We’re running from school, to internship, to work, and then we still have to find time for a social life and church life. One semester, each day was a 12 hour day for me and I still had to worry about homework. The older I get the more important I realize it is to relax. We don’t want to get burnt out at a young age.
Everyone isn’t always going to be in your life.
This is a lesson I learned recently. Don’t get me wrong, sometimes we are lucky enough to have some people in our lives for forever or at least a long time, but that’s not everyone. A good friend once told me, you can’t drag someone into your next season when they were only supposed to be with you in your last. I just realized that it’s okay.
Find a scripture to hold onto.
Find that one verse that just keeps you going. For me that is Psalm 23:3 (msg version), “True to your word, you let me catch my breath and send me in the right direction.” Straight chills as I type that!
This too shall pass.
Storms will come and it will seem like all hope is lost, but it’s only a season. Sometimes the season we are in sucks, but we get through it. We just have to remind ourselves.
I couldn’t tell you how many times I have written this blog post. I wanted to make sure I was truly saying everything that I wanted to say. I hope this post helps you in some way and if you have any lessons you have learned, feel free to comment and let me know!
Also, I had an amazing time shooting this outfit with my good friend Gabrielle, and the pictures are too good to not have their own post! Stay tuned for a post about this outfit next.